Comments on: How To F*** Up At Online Networking

By: SEO Asia Guy

SEO Asia Guy — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 03:22:21 +0000

I received a lot of similar messages. Could it be F***ing spambot?

By: Xurxo Vidal

Xurxo Vidal — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:51:08 +0000

Todd,

Well f*****g said Todd. Never ceases to amaze me how little common sense a lot people have. Or maybe it’s just a lack tact and manners.

Why would networking online be any different from meeting someone in person? I mean would you actually want to be that person who ends up talking about themselves with little to no interest in the person you are talking to? And once you’re done with your monologue have the balls to ask for a favor?!

I have to say, I like your discretion and decency at not calling this guy out personally. Hopefully this will help others avoid the same mistake and learn a valuable social lesson: Networking is a 2-way street.

By: paisley

paisley — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 18:23:06 +0000

Todd,
I totally agree, i will except almost anyone, unless they are in MLM or some other spam category…

but asking me to pimp someone out i hardly know?

F*** that!

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By: Niccolo Svengali

Niccolo Svengali — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 16:46:29 +0000

Ah, modern telecommunications. Allowing people you don’t want to talk to and who have nothing useful to say 24-hour-a-day access to you.

By: Todd Mintz

Todd Mintz — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 13:43:17 +0000

Brian, assertive “friending” is absolutely OK by me…I certainly do it and I accept it from others. However, it’s a pretty big leap between assertive “friending” and what this guy did. If you want something important from a complete stranger, it’s OK to attempt to ask…however, show some humility when you do so.

By: Brian Carter

Brian Carter — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 13:25:27 +0000

Hey Todd, great post, even if you do have a dirty mouth

I agree in spirit, especially with the example you gave.

However, at times I’ve taken a leap – adding someone on Facebook, for example – when I wasn’t sure how well they knew me, but I wanted to connect with them. Sometimes there’s no way to make that connection except assertively.

I’ve found that some people are more open than others. There are people in my own industry who I know have heard of me and read my blog posts but completely ignore me. I’m not sure why.

But you may never know sometimes until you reach out to someone.

I think the other big point is that people are more or less open depending on the network- Twitter is VERY open, Facebook has become more open than it used to be, and LinkedIn can be quite closed by comparison. But again it depends on the person. There are LION’s (LinkedIn Open Networkers) who put their emails in their name so you can connect with them without fear of getting suspended by LinkedIn.com.

The way to network is to start with the more open networks and work your way up with each person, as you find synergy and a real connection with them, of course…

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By: Patricia Skinner

Patricia Skinner — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 23:10:28 +0000

Hi Todd, I know how helpful you can be. We've been networking for probably around a year, and you've stepped up to the plate for me and others on a number of occasions. It's not hard to network well. Valid point here. Patricia Skinners last blog post..Sarah Palin and SEO Copywriting–Google Loves them Both!